I think it’s important to note that I wrote the definition for these terms, but also linked popular definition sites to each word. This way you can know what *I* mean when I refer to a term.
I often get asked about polyamory. I tend to use the terms polyam (short for polyamorous) and NM (non-monogamous).
So let’s talk about it.
Monogamous: (Mono meaning one, and amorous meaning love) defined as having one love for person’s lifetime.
Serially Monogamous: having a series of one love at a time relationships throughout a person’s lifetime.
Non-Monogamy: choosing to live a life where there is no expectation of only one partner.
Polyamory: the philosophy or state of being non-platonically involved with more than one person at the same time with informed consent from all involved.
Love: intense feelings of caring for another individual’s wellbeing and is shown through actions.
Intimacy: closeness brought between two people when they share deep and often unknown things about themselves with another person.
Romance: the actions and gestures of people when they are wanting to establish an intimate relationship.
Platonic: the absence of romantic actions and gestures while having the ability to gain intimacy in a relationship (what is commonly referred to as friendships).
Partner(s): in reference to two or more people who have established and desire to maintain commitment with each other.
I am certain this list will evolve over time as I write more and realize I might be introducing a term that those outside of the polyam community might be unfamiliar with. I try to explain it anyway and in the simpliest terms when I write. However, feelings are complex. So, many of these terms are nuanced.
One thing I tell everyone is that no two polyamorous relationships are the same. And assumptions are usually not a good idea. Asking for clarification is always best, and most of us are happy to share with you about our journey.
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